Divorce is not a pleasant experience. And while there are few ways to make it easier, there are many ways to make the process longer, more painful, and more expensive. By simply avoiding these mistakes, you can get through your divorce as rapidly and cleanly as possible. Today, we’re going to discuss the top five things you should never do during a divorce.
Let’s dive in.
5 Things to Avoid During a Divorce
Regardless of who filed first, be sure to avoid these five common divorce mistakes:
1. Lying to the kids
Divorce is painful, and it can seem like a little white lie here and there may save the kids some strife. Unfortunately, masking the truth will only hurt you in the long run. In fact, lying to the kids is one of the biggest things to avoid during a divorce. Instead, be as direct and honest as you can with your children.
Explain the situation logically and avoid badmouthing your spouse. Your kids are taking their emotional cues from you, and maintaining an attitude of stability and respect will help them cope. For some great resources on how to talk to kids about divorce, visit HealthyChildren.org.
2. Starting another relationship
Divorce is tough enough without having to navigate your ex-spouse’s new partnership, as well. While you can’t control what your husband or wife does, make your own commitment to stay single until your divorce is finalized. Getting involved with someone else right away isn’t healthy, and it could make your divorce process more contentious.
3. Hiding money
As soon as a divorce begins, your finances should go on lockdown. Don’t attempt to hide money or spend large sums to spite your partner. These things will only make the divorce proceedings more difficult. Instead, hire an attorney to advise you on how to protect your interests legally.
4. Despair
Divorce is one of life’s most stressful events, and it’s easy to lose yourself in it. Despair doesn’t benefit anyone, though. There is life after divorce, and being intentional about your healing is the best way to make it through.
To safeguard your mental health, seek counseling, and stay away from depressants like alcohol and drugs. Try meditation, learn something new, read an uplifting self-help book, take care of your body with diet and exercise, and spend time with friends and family. Adequate self-care helps diffuse upheaval.
5. Not hiring an attorney
No matter how amicable your separation seems, don’t make the mistake of thinking you and your spouse can resolve your divorce on your own. Divorces are difficult and emotionally charged, and you need good legal advice to make things LESS complicated for both of you.
A Less Painful Divorce Starts Here
Nobody wants to get divorced, but sometimes it’s a necessary step to enjoy the next phase of your life. Better days are on the horizon, and MGM Law, P.A. can help you get there. Our team of skilled, compassionate family attorneys will work with you to protect your interests and help ensure a divorce that’s as collaborative, decent, and streamlined as possible. Contact us today to learn more about our services or our team.
